read thamsy's extra emo post and was once again inspired to write something that "counters" his post. actually thats one of my way of making friends, to counter watever they say until somehow they just "watever" and takes more notice of u. as a matter of fact it works but it depends on the type of ppl im targetting. if is some ppl who feel that im REALLY hostile towards them, well too bad i had an enemy.
ok back to the main point. wat is a friend? i find the definition of "friend" very complicated to a certain degree. it cannot be a person who worships watever u do and abandon u when he lost interest. thats a fan (no pun intended). neither can it be a person who sticks with u all the time and helps u out no matter wat situation u and him is in. i find that a minion instead of a friend. friends quarrel, they have "days of daoing" where they just ignore each other, thats normal. but in the end they still makes up.
making friends is not THAT simple as wat many ppl think. its not like fishing in which u use the right bait and they will go for the hook. its more of a enzyme-substrate situation where it depends on both sides. there are ppl who are the induced fit type which makes friends with nearly any type of ppl. most of us make friends only with ppl we are comfortable with. for example, its very difficult for me to make friends with ppl who likes to act cool. keith is the only exception cuz i supposed he changed his own configuration to fit mine. as a matter of fact although he was my classmate for 3 years, inlcuding this year, i only started making friends with him this year.
making friends take time. u have to wait for the right moment to throw in the line. a pat on the back when they are depressed. a helping hand when they are in need. very minor things often result in great impacts. small jokes can create a relationship as well. looking back, the first friend i made in sec one is daniel, and it all started with us crapping about gassing ppl. (hohoho him vs me the chem god, who wins?) it ends with him giving me a nickname "Dr Poison" at the end of the sec one class orientation. then also for me i usually "affects and targets" ppl in an aoe around me, so usually the first person to become friendly with me is the one sitting next to me, but not all the time as stated before i just cant make friends with act-cool ppl.
my secret of making friends? make use of coincidences and small incidents to get close to him. that way he will just willingly go for the hook. for example how weibo and me make friends? it started off at the end of the second chem practical of term 1 when he helped me stack all the files together (haha thanks weibo). its actually very simple, none of us actually spoke, except for something like "i wait for u outside" and "thanks", but then we are still able to make friends. so thamsy, try making use of these everyday events to make friends with whoever u r talking about in ur blog. go for it!
btw u r my first i-spark friend in this whole year in hci. lolol feel honoured?
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